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Travel Insight

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The Hon Vijay Daryanani MP, Minister for Business, Tourism and The Port, talks to Jo Ward about tourism and the prospects for travel to and from Gibraltar as we come out of restrictions put in place due to COVID-19.

Nearly exactly a year ago, Insight spoke to Minister Daryanani about the dearth of tourists wandering down Main Street, and the Minister commented that “it was heart-breaking to see an empty Main Street and that he was looking forward not only to the day when it becomes as busy as it used to be, but also that visitors can enjoy the wonderful products that Gibraltar has to offer as a tourism destination”. On the day of our meeting at the beginning of March, Main Street was thronged with people, testament to the fact that visitors are once again coming to Gibraltar. 

“We are seeing signs of recovery now,” Minister Daryanani says, continuing “and I think that the vaccine has shown people that that is the way ahead.”

“We have antivirals coming along so I think people are realising that the virus is not going to go away and we need to learn to live with it, and I know that this is a phrase you hear from all politicians,” the Minister smiles as he says this, “but it is a fact that we need to learn to live with COVID-19 because the choice is simple, either we lock up and stay at home or we get on with things.”

Stating that the economy has been decimated, Minister Daryanani says that we are fortunate that Gibraltar is a small place. “We know in general that the Government has spent close to £300 million making sure that we have saved jobs and businesses, and we have paid people’s wages which is unheard of in the private sector.” 

Now, he says, we need to get on and to start enjoying life once again. “People and businesses are frustrated and they want to make sure that their businesses prosper.”

The COVID-19 pandemic brought about an unprecedented halt to global travel, with restrictions and travel bans put in place all over the world, but the good news is that people are travelling once again. “The cruising sector is extremely important for Main Street and for our hospitality sector – they are the two that have suffered the most when it comes to travel,” Minister Daryanani states.

“Yesterday I welcomed cruise ship World Odyssey on its inaugural call to Gibraltar,” the Minister comments. “We have a situation now where we have 180 cruise calls this year, that is not far off from pre-pandemic levels, so we are doing quite well, but I want to market the Gibraltar Port as a premier cruising destination in the Mediterranean, so you will see over the next few months that I will really crank up my cruise marketing because it is something that I haven’t been able to do over the last couple of years.” 

The banning of non-essential travel due to the COVID-19 pandemic had a huge impact on flights in and out of Gibraltar, however Gibraltar was very fortunate as at one point it was the only country in Europe that was on the UK’s travel ‘green list’.

“Thanks to our successful marketing campaign and the slogan ‘Gibraltar is your great British staycation in the Mediterranean’, it brought people to Gibraltar who perhaps in the past would not have come,” the Minster says. “Now they have been here, I think that they will come back again because they realise that Gibraltar is a very entertaining place, there is a lot to do, and it is a perfect place for young families.”

One exciting development for Gibraltar in 2021 was the introduction of Wizz Air and Eastern Airlines joining the flights that came in daily from the UK by British Airways and EasyJet. Unfortunately, both airlines withdrew flights, Wizz Air from Luton to Gibraltar and Eastern Airlines from Birmingham and Southampton to Gibraltar, last year. 

“In my view when you start something new you need to let it mature – it can’t start working within the first year – any new business does not make money in the first year and unfortunately these airlines have taken the decision that it hasn’t made money in the first year and that they want to pull out.”

“At the end of the day it is a question of demand, and if they are going to lose money they are not going to fly here,” the Minister says. “I convinced both airlines to come to Gibraltar, I worked extremely hard on doing that, and their circumstances allowed it at the time.” 

Minister Daryanani went on to say that he still has a very good relationship with both airlines. “I met them last week when I attended the CONNECT airline conference in Finland, and they still have interest in Gibraltar, so I will keep on working with them and there might be some possibilities in attracting them back next year.”

Talking about new routes and other airlines coming to Gibraltar, I remind the Minister that Ireland was mentioned as a possible new catchment area in the past. “Ireland is one that is on my hit list and in the same way that I attracted Edinburgh, because we didn’t have a link to Scotland and we have it now, I am hoping that we can do something with Ireland.”

Minister Daryanani says that insofar as other air routes are concerned, it depends a lot on the Treaty that Gibraltar is negotiating with the EU.  “If air transport is included in the Treaty then there might be a situation where the airport will open up to Schengen countries, so we will be able to have flights from Spain, France, Italy – all over Europe – and there is a lot of interest in this.” The Minister goes on to say that at CONNECT he was given the opportunity to speak about Gibraltar in a panel discussion. “Airlines were asking me about the Treaty and what it will do to Gibraltar, and in my view it will be a game changer in terms of travelling to and from the territory.”

The hospitality and hotel industry has obviously suffered during the past couple of years, but with the scheduled number of flights for this summer at nearly the same as pre-pandemic, Minister Daryanani agrees that it can only be a good thing for that business sector. “Absolutely, we are seeing recovery and I expect things to improve next year,” he comments. “However, insofar as flights are concerned at the moment, pre-pandemic we didn’t have Wizz and we didn’t have Eastern Airways, so if we put that to one side we already have that kind of level of flights as we did at pre-pandemic levels, so it is excellent for the hotels and I think that they will once again be busy this summer.”

The Minister agrees that it is also important to attract more hotels to Gibraltar. “We have got some new ones coming, but we also have a situation where when I go marketing to the UK, one of the things that I am asked is ‘you are coming here to market Gibraltar which is excellent, but when we look for space in Gibraltar, there isn’t any because the hotels are full’.”

“There is definitely a market for a couple more hotels in Gibraltar, but of different standards,” he states, going on to add that it is something that he is working on because it is crucial to the development of UK tourism. 

“If we are going to be able to be part of Schengen for mobility purposes and aviation is included within the Treaty, then we are going to be able to go out and market Gibraltar to Europe because we might have the possibility of having flights here, so we will need more hotel space – but we have to wait and see.”


Visit Scotland

Of all the cities in the world, Edinburgh is particularly blessed. Like Gibraltar, it evolved as a settlement around a large fortified rock in a coastal setting. Unlike Gib, however, it had the benefit of being able to spread itself out a little more which, to the traveller, only means there is much more to see.

With easyJet opening up a direct route to Scotland’s capital city, all of a sudden many more opportunities exist for weekend trips to one of the prettiest cities in the UK.

You’ll need to be prepared for all sorts of weather. So bring enough to witness whatever Mother Nature throws at you.

At the heart of Edinburgh is the Royal Mile, in the Old Town. At one end of this is Edinburgh Castle, and at the other the Palace of Holyroodhouse, Her Majesty’s official residence in Auld Reekie. The Royal Mile alone is worthy of a day or so’s exploration. With all the many closes (alleyways) running from it, each with their own story to tell. Beneath the City Chambers you’ll find Mary King’s Close – a peak into a bygone era that was merely built upon thus preserving life in the 17th Century.

At this portion of the Royal Mile, you’ll be stumbling into the area that resulted in the genesis of Harry Potter. JK Rowling used many of the buildings around here as inspiration for the books (George Heriot’s School, for example) and nearby Victoria Street, said to have prompted Diagon Alley.

Edinburgh was at the epicentre of the Enlightenment, and was coined the Athens Of The North in recognition of this. There has always been a darker side, with the tales of Deacon Brodie and Burke & Hare both frightening and inspiring generations. For an overarching look across the area, head to Calton Hill or Arthur’s Seat. From here you will experience the best views in Edinburgh.

Close to the Royal Mile on the other side of Waverley Railway Station and Princes Street Gardens, is Princes Street itself. This is the main shopping area in the city with further boutiques and specialised retail on George Street which runs parallel. One flagship store is Harvey Nicols, which features a restaurant/bar with far reaching views across the city northwards towards Fife. This area is known locally as the New Town, with its distinct and planned Georgian grid pattern.

For sports fans, each of the three major stadia are relatively close to the centre. In the east, Hibernian’s Easter Road and in the west Tynecastle Park, home of Heart of Midlothian. Not far from Hearts’ ground is Murrayfield, where Scotland Rugby is headquartered.

As you travel further outside the middle, quirky areas like the Dean Village, Stockbridge and Morningside are all within easy reach. Taxis are keenly priced in Edinburgh, plus there is a relatively new tram system. The bus service in Edinburgh has always been exemplary, and special ticket prices are available for jumping on and off to explore.

In Leith, in keeping with Edinburgh’s maritime heritage, the Royal Yacht Britannia is permanently on display. This is right beside Ocean Terminal mall which also features a cinema. On The Shore in Leith, one or two excellent seafood restaurants ply their trade, including Fishers which is highly recommended. Adjacent to this is the original Malmaison, which was converted from a historical seaman’s mission to the chic hotel and bar we have today.

Of course, travelling to Edinburgh also opens up Scotland’s other city, Glasgow as a day trip possibility. It’s safe to say that Scotland’s biggest city is a bit grittier, but it also offers much in the way of shopping and two giant European football teams, Rangers and Celtic. Which one is The Best, we’ll leave up to you.


Fun Holiday Destinations for the Kids

Disneyworld 

Would you like to travel to a galaxy far, far away?

Disneyworld’s 50th anniversary event started on 1st October 2021 and is set to end in March 2023 – lasting a full eighteen months. You can celebrate in style by booking a trip to the newly opened Star Wars: Galactic Starcruiser – a Star Wars themed luxury hotel near Disney’s Hollywood Studios, in the Epcot Resort Area of the Walt Disney World Resort in Florida. Star Wars: Galactic Starcruiser offers a first of its kind immersive adventure unlike Disney has ever done before. During your voyage, you can choose how you interact with characters, crew, and other passengers.  Every Star Wars: Galactic Starcruiser package includes a 2-night stay in a cabin or suite, meals (excluding alcoholic and specialty beverages) and the opportunity to live your Star Wars story through exclusive experiences, missions and activities. You also get lightsaber training and a trip to the planet Batuu, better known as the Galaxy’s Edge theme park.

If you want to brush shoulders with Star Wars characters, eat intergalactic food, and maybe even going on a secret mission, this is a trip that both adults and kids will love – although bear in mind that it is really expensive – but if you love Star Wars, this is definitely a trip to splash out on!

Amsterdam

This is a destination that may not automatically come to mind when you are thinking about where to go on holiday with the kids, but there so many things to do and discover in this family friendly city. 

Well known for some of the best cycling routes in the world, Amsterdam is a small city and easy to navigate with kids along well paved bike paths. Bicycles are easy to rent, but look out for the Dutch cargo bikes (or ‘bakfiets’) which are the most practical and the most environmentally friendly solution to get around. 

Amsterdam is bursting with outdoor spaces, parks and playgrounds that are perfect for letting off steam. There are several museums in Amsterdam but the kids will love Nemo, the Science Museum where a hands-on philosophy encourages interaction and the little ones will be captivated by the buttons, levers and pulleys, not to mention the bubbles that they can step in to and the clouds that make rain. At certain times of the year when the weather is good, the roof houses free attractions and water features.  

If that’s not enough to entice you, remember the tulip fields, windmills, canals, petting zoos and playgrounds, all good reasons why Amsterdam is one the best places to visit with kids. 


3 Day guide to Paris for first-time visitors

Paris is one of those cities you could probably visit several times and still find new places to explore. I definitely did not get through all the restaurant recommendations on my list! I had previously visited Paris as a child so my memories of it were vague, so it was nice to really see the sights properly and use my GCSE French. Whether you’re travelling with your family, friends or partner, here are my tips and recommendations for your visit to Paris.

Where to stay

Paris is made up of 20 ‘arrondissements’ or districts, and as expected the closer you stay to the major landmarks the more expensive your hotel is going to be. The good thing is that the Paris metro system is pretty easy to use and each ride only costs you  €1.90. We stayed in the Hotel 25Hours Terminus Nord, which meant that the Gare du Nord metro and train station was right on our doorstep. 

The hotel was beautiful and so quirky. It was very Parisian and full of colour and artwork. It also had unique touches like a typewriter to send love letters out in the lobby, and I probably ate my weight in French toast at the buffet breakfast. We were also able to use Netflix and YouTube on the television in the bedroom which was great for when we were getting ready.

Where to eat

I was travelling with my vegan friend so we did have to opt for some vegan friendly restaurants, which wasn’t as difficult as we were expecting in France. I know the delicacies in France include escargot (snails) and Foie gras (duck or goose fat) but immersing myself in the local cuisine went as far as crepes and creme brulee. Hey Honey was a bit on the pricier side but the setting was lovely and the cocktails were shown on tarot cards. I opted for the duck breast with dauphinoise potatoes and I’m still daydreaming about how good they were. If you do want to try some classic french dishes, then Terminus Nord Restaurant has a selection of everything at decent prices. 

If you’re after some vegan cuisine, then Le Potager du Marais serves vegan alternatives of French dishes. I opted for french onion soup (which came complete with vegan cheese), and finished off with some creme brulee. The owner of the restaurant was lovely and took time to come and chat to us and talk about the dishes. If you fancy something different, then Jah Jah By Le Tricycle is a good shout. They only have 4 items on the menu which changes everyday but I thoroughly enjoyed my meal! It’s a Jamaican vegan restaurant and I got a big plate of food for 10 euros. 

If you have a sweet tooth, then definitely stop by Creperie Montorgueil and try their salted caramel and banana crepe. They also do a bunch of savoury options if that’s what you prefer. If you’d like to take home some macarons, then Maison Laduree is the most famous place to get them, or you can also eat in and try one of their indulgent cakes. Lastly for some eclairs, Le Eclair De Genie offers a wonderful selection. 

What to do

The best way to start your first day in Paris is doing a walking tour of all the sights, either on your own or on an organised tour. Sandeman’s offer a free walking tour that starts at 11am everyday starting from Place St Michel. If you’d rather do it on your own, save the points of interest in Google Maps. Make sure to include the Eiffel Tower, The Louvre, Notre Dame Cathedral, Arc De Triomphe, Pantheon and the Sacre-Coeur Basilica. Once you’re done seeing the sites, get a different perspective by taking a 1 hour cruise down the Seine river. The boats run every hour but the best time to go is at sunset. 

There are a ton of different museums to visit in Paris, but the most notable has to be the Louvre where the Mona Lisa is housed. It probably took us an hour to find her because we started on the opposite side of the museum, and boy did it feel like we were stuck in a maze! They say that  even if you spent 3 months in the Louvre, you still would not get through every exhibit. If you fancy doing something a bit more unique, then head to the Catacombs of Paris, an underground ossuaries which hold the remains of more than six million people. 

In terms of evening entertainment, something I definitely recommend doing for the experience is attending a Moulin Rouge show. They first opened their doors in 1889 and you really do get immersed in the experience when you are there. Tickets cost £70 and this also included a bottle of champagne between the two of us. 

If you have time, then head out of the city to visit the Palace of Versailles, it really is beautiful. Your other option is to, of course, visit Disneyland Paris which is a short 45 minute train from the city centre. Just make sure to check online which rides and shows are currently open as with Covid things are still slightly different. 

Whether you’re planning a long weekend or a full week in Paris, you’re never short of things to do! 


Travelling Light

Now that there is the opportunity to travel once again, here are a few tips to help you pack like a pro!

You’ve probably heard of Marie Kondo, the Japanese organising consultant, who revolutionised the way we declutter and tidy up. Folding your clothing the KonMari way can revolutionise the way you pack your suitcase and will ensure that you maximise the space. 

“Clothes should be folded and packed upright,” she recommends. “Fold suits and lay them flat on top. Pack bras on top, and don’t flatten them. Pack small things such as underwear in a travel pouch, and transfer lotions and toiletries into smaller bottles to reduce volume”

So is the KonMari method better than rolling your clothes or using packing cubes? Packing vertically takes up less space and allows you to see where everything is at a glance. However, you may want to try a method used by the army – the Ranger Roll technique – whereby you lay the item of clothing out flat, then fold the bottom two inches of the item inside out so it creates a type of pocket along one side of the clothing. From the opposite end, roll the item tightly until you get to the pocket you’ve created. Fold one side of the pocket over the roll, securing it tightly.

There are many different and creative ways to pack jewellery for travelling. You can, of course, buy jewellery organisers that keep your items safe and secure, but there are other options such as using a pill box to store your rings, small earrings or delicate pieces of jewellery.  Cling film is a good way to keep your necklaces separate. Place each necklace on a section of cling film, leaving a few centimetres of space between each, then carefully roll it up. Alternatively, if you have plastic straws lying around in a drawer, one good way to repurpose them is to loop one end of the necklace through a straw and then fasten to stop it from tangling up whilst travelling. 

Shoes can be awkward items to pack, but try packing heels in the central top half of your suitcase and fill the gaps between the heels with rolled-up small pieces of clothing. Stuff flat soled shoes and boots with socks and underwear and keep the soles to the sides of your suitcase. 


Travel Positives

The positive benefits of travel are numerous and varied. Whether a wonderful trip within the UK or a glamorous adventure to a far flung location. They can all provide life affirming experiences and valuable time to reflect.

Jo Wheatley is a global award winning emotions coach. Jo details below, the reasons why travel is good for us physically, emotionally and mentally:

• Travelling enables us to step outside of our comfort zone, into stretch which enables us to grow our comfort zone. The longer we stay in our comfort zone the smaller our comfort zone becomes.

• Travelling enables us to challenge our beliefs, by being exposed to new cultures and people. This is healthy. It can help us to replace limiting beliefs about ourselves with positive, empowering beliefs

• When we decide to travel it is often because it is aligned to one of our core values. This may be adventure for example, or independence, or freedom. When we take decision to live our lives aligned to our values we are most fulfilled. When our values are met we experience emotions such as joy and

• It can increase our creativity as we are stimulate with new experiences and can lead to us setting new goals for ourselves.

• It enables us to communicate in new ways, often requiring us to innovate in our communication and resourcefulness as we encounter situations we may not have planned for.

• Having photos of our experiences and treasured memories can be great for us to dip into and stimulate positive emotions when we are home, back in our everyday life and need to be inspired.

Alison Stockton is a Trauma informed – functional medicine practitioner Health coach. Alison states that ‘travel became popular only for the wealthy or the expeditionist a few centuries ago and then thanks to air travel it has become a huge industry.

Travel has bought a huge sense of achievement, fulfilment and excitement for so many, this is positive psychology. Because of the sense of “looking forward to something,” it highlights positive emotions, happiness and wellbeing. There is a “sense of connection”, we begin to research where we would like to go, what we would like to see whilst there, anticipating the feeling of relaxation. It is also an incentive to become healthier before the actual travel itself. The thoughts alone of that holiday can release feel-good hormones, lower stress hormones and release endorphins for the anticipated experience. 

  • Mental image of the destination
  • Motivation (perhaps to save or the trip, new shopping experience. etc)
  • Decision/ choice (Book/ Reservations)
  • Experience
  • Satisfaction

When we arrive at our location we can actually change our neurochemistry and move from a sympathetic nervous state (Stressed/fight/flight)  to a calm parasympathetic state in our body continues to release 

so that we actually feel healthier almost instantly. Not only that when we are in the sunshine we are exposed to Vitamin D which is an essential hormone, that many have been deficient in the last 2 years, which vastly supports immune health

The inspiration of seeing beautiful destinations, the architecture, the weather (esp when living in the uk) the visualisation of sitting by the pool, or dipping your toes into the sea with the warm sun on your body, you can transport yourself to a calm state of relaxation before you arrive.

We have heard so many times “Arh, I need a holiday” this is because (its hoped) that the moment you begin breath your journey to the destination, you already begin to unwind, relax, breath and untangle the “stressors” every day modern 21st Century living has brought to us.

Looking forward to travelling now in 2022 is seemingly giving us back freedom, something to look forward to, a time with our friends and family away from the “home” we may love but have felt bound to for 2 years. A holiday where we can do as we please with less conformity or routine. A time to sleep, to rest, to be well and calm down our busy minds, play cards and be present with loved ones, experience inspiring architecture, absorb. history, climb a mountain, the world, as they say, is our oyster, the world is yours to explore.

Travel can even mean taking a 2-3 hour train journey to London and allowing time for your mind to quieten and think of changes you desire to make in your life, it can bring such incredible positivity to be in a different environment.

When a human is away from their “every day” it enables us to step out of the groundhog replay and take a new perspective, like the matrix. We get to press pause, it doesn’t matter if, for 2 days or 2 weeks, we can see things differently and often, assess what in our life needs more or less focus and how we can then make the desired changes a reality.

Long gone have thee days where travel and change was just a far fetched dream, it is a reality to make dreams come true.

Travel expands our cognitional, emotional behaviour, social interactions and mental wellbeing. Many best friends, romantic partners and relocations, work opportunities have been encountered due to the wonders of travel.

So much inspiration and perspective are gained through travel and changing our environment.

The last 2 years travel bans that we have experienced restrictions, we have all. felt very saddened and restricted by, so if an opportunity arises for you to change your location, even for just a few short days, embrace it, enjoy it and feel your mental wellbeing is being fully supported.’

• Jo Wheatley, No 1 Podcast host and author. www.jowheatley.comwww.igcompany.co.ukwww.podfollow.com/the-coaching-crowd

• Alison Stockton (Expat and lover of travel)

• www.instagram.com/the_enrichedwoman

• www.vibrantbalancedhealth.com


Honeymoon Destinations

Wedding season is nearly upon us, with June traditionally being the most popular wedding month. Once you have announced your engagement and set the date for the nuptials, the next most important thing is to choose where you are going to honeymoon.

The word honeymoon from the Old English ‘hony moone’. Hony refers to the European custom of giving newlyweds enough mead, ‘an alcoholic liquor made by fermenting honey and water’, to last a ‘moone’ (month) which was thought to be the period following marriage where everything is sweet and rosy, also referencing the changing aspect of the moon, from full to waning, or the period when that initial euphoria starts to wane!

Planning where to go on your honeymoon can be stressful. Ideally, for most of us, we are looking for some rest, relaxation and quality time with our newly wedded partner. The most important thing is to plan the trip together and incorporate destinations that you both want to go to and to include activities that you both want to do. 

With many couples having to put their plans on hold for the past two years, it is likely that there will be an influx of bookings for the next few years, so now is the time to sit down and decide where to go. From exotic faraway places to more affordable and closer to home, from beach paradises to adventure or cultural trips, here are a few of our top tips. 

The Maldives

The tropical resort islands of the Maldives situated in the Indian Ocean are often featured in the top ten of the world’s most romantic destinations for a honeymoon. If peace and tranquillity, white sandy beaches and turquoise waters are for you, there are plenty of luxury private resorts to choose from. You’ve probably seen images of the iconic overwater villas and bungalows perched above tranquil lagoons that grace the pages of glossy magazines, so if that is what you are after then check out Komandoo, an adult only resort situated in the Lhaviyani Atoll, a 40-minute seaplane ride from the capital Malé. Other equally stunning resorts are situated at Milaidhoo, Kanuhura, Maagau Island and Muravandhoo Island and keep in mind that the best time to visit the Maldives is between November and March. 

Mexico

If a beach holiday isn’t for you and you are the couple that crave adrenaline and adventure, Mexico’s varied landscapes offer an abundance of options. Go whitewater kayaking or river rafting in Tlapacoyan in the state of Veracruz, situated in the eastern part of the country, from where you can experience the challenging Alseseca, Filobobos and Jalacingo rivers.

Alternatively, try the longest (3km), highest (300 meters) and fastest (120 km per hour) zipline in the world in the Copper Canyon Adventure Park (Parque de Aventuras) near Divisadero.

The Yucatan Peninsula is in the easternmost part of Mexico and separates the Gulf of Mexico from the Caribbean Sea. Explore the ancient Mayan ruins and visit the archaeological sites of Chichen Itza, a World heritage site that was also named as one of the New 7 Wonders of the World, Uxmal – the second-most visited archaeological park in Mexico – and Tulum. 

Italy

Somewhere closer to home is the ultimate honeymooners’ destination of Italy, with its picturesque landscapes, rich cultural history and art, delicious food and delightful wine. With its network of canals, Venice is renowned as the city of love and what could be more romantic than a serenaded gondola ride that will take you past ancient palazzi and magnificent cathedrals. Explore the Amalfi Coast by car and take in the beautiful scenery and the rugged coastlines. If you are coming from Naples or Rome, the coastal town of Sorrento is a good place to start your journey. If hiking is your thing, try one of the most spectacular hiking trails in the world, the Path of the Gods, which begins at Agerola and follows a route high above the coast. Make your way to Amalfi and then discover the sights of the idyllic fishing village of Positano. Hop on a ferry to enjoy the charms of Sorrento, tour historic Naples, walk among the ruins of ancient Pompeii, a UNESCO World Heritage Site, and take in the natural beauty of the enchanting island of Capri. 

Finally, Rome has to be on the list for a romantic honeymoon experience. Soak up the stunning architecture of the Eternal City, walk along the winding alleys and cobbled streets and find a new surprise around every corner. Rome is home to some of the world’s most beautiful churches from the Romanesque, Gothic, Renaissance, and Baroque periods and a trip to Rome would not be complete without a visit to the Vatican City where you can visit St. Peter’s Basilica, famous for Michelangelo’s painting of the Sistine Chapel, wander round the Vatican’s gardens and go to the Vatican Museums which conserve the immense collection of art amassed by the popes from the seventeenth century onwards.

South Africa 

One of the best honeymoon destinations in Africa, South Africa offers a diverse cultural experience, savannahs, wildlife and beautiful landscapes. Take a safari trip and see the Big Five (African lions, leopards, rhinoceros, elephants, and Cape buffalo) in their natural habitats. Stay in a lodge at the Kruger National Park, one of the most beautiful and fascinating places to visit, or camp out under the stars for an unforgettable experience. 

There’s no shortage of things to do in Cape Town, the famous resort city on South Africa’s southwest coast that sits beneath the 3,558-foot, flat-peaked Table Mountain. For some awe-inspiring views from the top, you can ride The Cableway, the rotating state-of-the-art cable car that takes visitors from the lower station to the summit in around 5 minutes, giving you a 360 degree aerial view of the city as you go.

How about a trip to a wine estate? Some of the best wines are grown and produced in Western Cape Winelands, home to favourite regions like Stellenbosch and Franschhoek. Stay overnight in a family owned boutique winery, or visit for the day and savour the delights of lunch or afternoon tea, all the while indulging in award-winning wines at some of the best wineries in the world. 

Low level sound

in Health & Beauty

low level annoyance is part of our everyday lives – or so it seems.  Have you noticed how everyone appears to be irate most of the time?

Here are a few examples of what really gets us riled up:

Household items in the street

Who hasn’t walked past a discarded mattress or a wobbly coffee table left on a pavement?  Unsightly? Yes. Unhygienic? Definitely but also just plain inconsiderate.

Self proclaimed experts

You know that friend or family member who informs you of what is healthy to eat, what exercise to partake in or the best destinations to travel to. Well informed and knowledgeable?  Well, it transpires that this ‘expertise’ is simply them googling it for 10 minutes – calling it research. In that case, we must all be experts on everything.

Virtue signalling 

So you want to upload a photo of you cleaning your local beach of plastic – a positive environmental task.  However, shaming others who don’t – or perhaps cannot – join in, dilutes your good work.

Excessive plastic packaging 

There seems to be a universal cry for goods not to use so much packaging but little changes. In the U.K. alone it is estimated that 5 million tonnes of plastic is used annually – half of which is on packaging.

Password amnesia

Back in days gone by, many of us would use the same, one password for everything. Technology is too sophisticated for us to do that now so on a daily basis, I, like many I know, need to hit the ‘forgotten password’ key. Writing passwords down is a possible answer, although not too helpful if you mislay the book you wrote them in.

Gill Hasson is an author and delivers teaching and training across all sectors. Gill suggests we simply ‘breathe. Yes, it’s advice you’ve heard so many times before. But it works. Here’s how and why:

When you’re irritated, annoyed, frustrated etc the amygdala in your brain – the part of your brain responsible for your emotions – is triggered. This sets off a fight or flight reaction in your body; your heart starts thumping and your breathing increases.  (You’ve probably noticed that your heart rate and  the rate of your breathing automatically speeds up whenever you’re annoyed, frustrated or angry.) The increase in heart rate and breathing  provides your body with the energy it needs to fight or flee from whatever is annoying you. 

Unfortunately, this reaction, triggered by the amygdala automatically shuts down the neo cortex – the thinking, rationalising reasoning part of your brain. So what ever has happened to annoy you – instead of allowing you to calmly think through what rational, reasonable action to take, your body and mind work overtime getting more and more uptight, preparing you to fight or flee.

Fortunately, this phenomenon also works the other way round: when you slow down your breathing, you send a message to the body that things are in fact, ok. If you are able to slow your breathing down to six breaths a minute, this tells your body and your brain that there is no real threat. The neo cortex in your brain then kicks in and you are able to think clearly and find a sensible solution to whatever it is that’s annoyed you. (In any one particular situation, what that solution might be, will be up to you and the particular circumstances at the time.)

Try it right now : breathe in for five  seconds,  and then let your breath out for five  seconds. At the end of a minute you’ll have only taken five breaths, yet you won’t feel short of air; rather you’ll be aware that you CAN control your breathing, bring your heart rate down, feel calm and able to think clearly. Through this type of controlled and deliberate breathing, you’re sending your body the message that all is ok. 

Take and Acceptance and Commitment approach

This calming down in order to think of a reasonable way forward is related to what is known in mindfulness practice as an acceptance and commitment approach. Whatever has happened to annoy you – the excess plastic packaging, the rubbish in the streets or the sides of main road, other people hogging the middle lane, being cut off the phone call after you’ve been holding on for 10 minutes – you have to accept it. Whatever it is, it’s already happened. Nothing can change that. 

Instead of railing against what’s happened, filling your mind with how unfair/ ridiculous/ stupid it is,  once you can accept this fact – you tell yourself that it’s already happened and that can’t be changed –  you then free your mind to find a helpful solution.

You accept what’s happened, then you commit to a sensible solution.’

Gill Hasson is author of more than 30 books on the subject of wellbeing for adults and for children including, most recently, Moments of Comfort: Embracing the Joy in Life’s Simple Pleasures, and also Positive Thinking Pocketbook (both published by Capstone)

Summer

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Once we have waved goodbye to our colder months, we have the longer, brighter and hopefully warmer days ahead of us.

How can we ensure the Summer can psychologically, physically and mentally make us feel freer, more balanced and motivated?

TAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF

Another great thing about summer is that, in many cases, the world seems to slow down. Children are out of school, and families tend to take vacations during the summer because of the warmer weather.

With the ease of the summer months, take some time out for yourself. Take a calming walk by yourself, and use that time to meditate or reflect. (The exercise and vitamin D are an added bonus.) Go to the pool and enjoy the warmth of the sun and the cool, soothing water.

If you are not one for outdoor activities, find an indoor activity like doing a puzzle, playing music, or making art. Simply find an activity that makes you happy and relaxed. There are so many ways to take time for yourself, even if just for five minutes. Take advantage of the relaxed nature of summer, and find little ways that you can slow down and de-stress.

Make the most of fresh produce

Summertime brings sun and warmth (well, we can all hope!) and that of course stimulates growth. Because of this fruits and vegetables are in abundance at the moment.  What a great opportunity to incorporate these into your regular diet and try to boost your vitamin levels. 

Seek out farmers’ markets or greengrocers where you’ll be provided with the freshest produce.  If there aren’t any locally, then you can still source fresh ingredients in your local supermarket.  Try to buy produce that’s produced locally whilst it’s in season. 

Fruit and vegetables are a great option for a summer diet.  When the weather is warmer we tend to shy away from heavy meals so fresh produce is ideal.   From salads and smoothies to delicious soups there are a variety of options to make the most of everything that’s currently in season.  

Maintain a healthy sleep schedule

Just because school is out for summer and your kids can stay up late and sleep in does not mean they should. As parents, try to maintain a healthy and steady sleep schedule for ourselves and our kids, regardless of our work and school schedules, have become more lenient. It is recommended that we obtain 8-10 uninterrupted hours of sleep, as sleep hygiene is an essential component of our mental health.

Dr Tom MacLaren is a Consultant Psychiatrist states that ‘Waking up to bird song, sunshine and warmth of the summer months can be hugely uplifting, evoking the happiness, optimism and positivity which many of us struggle with in the depths of winter. Summer can bring lots of psychological, physical and mental benefits.

Nature connectedness can help improve our mental health with the fresh air, longer days and calmness of open spaces offering a retreat and distraction from our standard routines. Being closer to greenery, gardens and parks that will provide a boost to your energy and sense of wellness. The colourful, fragranced Summer blossoms can also be uplifting and make us appreciate the beauty of nature.

Finding the motivation to go out for a run in cold, dark and miserable conditions of winter can be very difficult, but the longer, brighter days of summer afford no excuses, meaning we are more likely to be physically active. Walking or cycling short distances, rather than driving, becomes a joy, not a chore and just by walking outdoors, the risk of heart disease, diabetes and even depression is reduced. Being outdoors is especially safe if you’re worrying about Covid, as these areas are naturally well ventilated, open and less crowded that the indoors.

Watching the sunrise and changing light during the day is a great way to re-set that body clock if you have missed sleep. Watching the sunset is also a very beautiful and therapeutic experience, helping us unwind, relieving stress and providing us with inspiration – many authors, painters and poets have used sunset as their muse.

Those longer and sunnier days will be toping up your vitamin D, a great boost to your immune system which also helps keep your bones healthy. Vitamin D deficiency has also been linked to depression, so this sunshine vitamin is not only beneficial for our bones but also our mood and mental health.

The summer is a great time to get work done and be more productive. With the sun rising earlier, you will have more energy to meet friends, take time off, complete DIY projects and even travel. The longer day means you’ll have time to gradually wind down in the evening and even enjoy eating outdoors, socialising with friends and fitting more into the day.

All this activity provides a lot more cognitive stimulation than the winter months. Your mind and brain will be busier processing your increased activity levels and this boosts your memory and helps protect against conditions like dementia.

We also tend to be much more social in the summer months, which is crucial to our mental health. Friendships help reduce stress and anxiety, improve self-confidence and can also help reduce the risk of many health conditions including obesity, blood pressure and even dementia. 

The longer hours of sun have well known effects of improving chronic skin problems, like eczema and psoriasis, but make sure you take care in the sun. Wear sunscreen, sunglasses and enough clothes to protect your skin, so you don’t get too much sun.’

Dr Tom MacLaren, Consultant Psychiatrist at Re:Cognition Health www.recognitionhealth.com

Spring Cleaning

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The essence of Spring cleaning for many of us is the sweeping away and decluttering of our homes, our environment – even our emotional lives.

Elizabeth McPherson is a Professional Declutterer and ADHD specialist who states ‘There is no doubt about it, physical clutter is an indicator of what is going on in our head.  In order to move forward you cannot look back, unless it’s to learn from past experiences.  Many live with clutter in their lives, either emotional or physical but the two are not mutually exclusive.  Clutter is often as a result of ‘put off decisions’ and an inability to move on from the past.  Many are trauma bonded to the past and it’s hard to let go.  

In truth clutter holds us back energetically and mentally. After all, if you can’t find something, it’s easier to replace it but what a waste of money this is.  A clutter free life, is a calmer life.  Free of clutter, you can think clearly, make better decisions and, wherever you find yourself in life, a calm environment can even help with sleep, an important ‘medicine’ for a healthy life.  Many of us seek perfection in our lives and that perfection is often sought by buying ’things’ rather than by buying memories.  Each ’thing’ purchased gives a moment of pleasure until another fix is required to fill that void.  Decluttering, letting go and bringing a bit of organisation into your life is a great way to shift ‘old’ energy and make way for ’new’ positive changes. Space in your life need not be filled with things, space gives you scope and flexibility both physically and emotionally.

EMOTIONAL CLUTTER

Emotionally many of us live 99% of the time in our ‘heads’ chattering away to ourselves about what we could have done better, what they did, she did.  It is so exhausting living like this. 

We fail to live in the moment and just ‘be’. For me personally, I started with the emotional declutter and that was all about forgiveness. I turned to Louise Hay’s book  “You can Heal your Life” which showed me how to forgive those who I believed had wronged me. I realised that a lack of forgiveness had held me back from where I wanted to be. 

SOCIAL ENVIRONMENT

A great social life is one of the key pinnacles to a happy life.  Social engagement with others is important for good mental health.  However, so many of us fail to realise the importance of hanging out with the right crowd.  Of course, we come with our families but recognising who lights you up (a radiator) or who drags you down (a drain) is very important. Sometimes it is a case of decluttering a friend or two. There is no need to fall out, just simply see those who make you feel bad about yourself, a bit less.  It is quite common to attract those who are on the same energy level as you. In other words, if you are feeling bad about yourself, it is easy to attract those who feel the same. That might sound like a match made in heaven, but if you are intending to move forward and your friend is not, that is when the relationship is draining and can hold you back. Many people, women in particular, are eager to please but how many times have you found yourself hanging out with a crowd each week and kind of wishing you were somewhere else?  

LIVING ENVIRONMENT 

Quite possibly, right now, you may not be living where you would ideally like to be living. You might have downsized, or even upsized, but maybe your home still does not feel like home. 

So what can you do about it?   Here are my top tips to a decluttered, calm life:


Let in the sunlight – always make sure blinds and curtains are up and open every day 


Open the windows and let in fresh air first thing – even if it’s freezing, fresh air is vital

• Paint the walls a neutral colour that helps you feel calm

• Bring in colour to brighten up your home

• Light candles 

Less is definitely more. Only keep what you have room for. Do not resort to lock ups and storage facilities.  Let go of anything that no longer serves you and definitely do not keep things that make you sad.  If you do not have the room then accept that where you are living right now, does not have room for the things you would like to keep. Acceptance of where you are now is where you need to be.  If you are lucky enough to be upsizing, still do not be tempted to ‘hold onto’ things that you ‘might’ use in the future.  More often than not, those ’things’ get forgotten and never used.  

Put like with like and keep things neat and tidy, that way you know where everything is and won’t panic when you are running out the door trying to find those missing keys 

Throw away envelopes and flyers and anything that you do not need to keep straight away.  If something needs urgent action, keep it in a safe place and deal with it quickly.  

Be grateful for where you live and learn to love your home. It may not be where you want to be forever, but if you learn to love it for now and accept where you are in life, you are in a great place to bring in all the good stuff that is bound to come your way.’

Elizabeth McPherson‘s contact details:

beth@thelifestyleconcept.co.uk

www.thelifestyleconcept.co.uk

Helping you find Inner Harmony through Decluttering 

Hassans’ Associates

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Coronavirus has created a surreal world. It is safe to say that the impact of a relentless, stress-inducing news cycle is something that we are all dealing with.

If you are feeling anxious, overworked or experiencing symptoms of burnout, podcasts are a surprisingly helpful resource from which to learn self-care coping strategies. 

These shows revolve around honest conversations about mental health. Others aim to help listeners create a sustainable work-life balance and teach the value of mindfulness and meditation.

Dr Tom MacLaren, Consultant Psychiatrist believes ‘Meeting a therapist might be a daunting experience, especially if you haven’t done this before. You might be concerned about what to expect, things the therapist might say, and what it’s like to open up details of your life to someone you don’t know.

The first thing to say is that therapy is more available now than ever. Thanks to “Improving Access to Psychological Therapies” (IAPT), which is an NHS-funded scheme, most people now have access to therapists in their local area.

For some people, the idea of meeting a therapist is too much. They might not be ready to take that step yet. If this sounds familiar to you, don’t despair as there is still a huge range of supports for your mental health and wellbeing; many of which are free!

One of these options, that people are increasingly turning to, are therapeutic podcasts.

A brief search of the Internet will show up a huge range of options, with a lot of useful educational content. Podcasts cover pretty much the whole range of mental health, from common problems like depression and anxiety, to more complex topics like chronic illnesses and trauma.

Listening to a podcast can be a much quicker, easier and less nerve-wracking experience for many people who might otherwise worry about meeting a stranger and having to explain things to them. You have the option to hit pause at any time and go at your own pace. Interesting topics might help you learn more about your own mental health, give you wellbeing tips and could even provide some insights about further support, if you need it.

Therapeutic podcasts are often produced as regular bite-sized episodes. This makes them easy listening and often less stressful than throwing yourself in the deep in with a 50-minute session in a consulting room.

Many are produced by people with lived experience of the illnesses they describe, such as ADHD reWired, hosted by Eric Tivers, who is a psychotherapist specialising in ADHD and has ADHD himself (check out 11 Therapy Podcasts That Offer Professional-Level Self-Care From The Comfort Of Your Own Home (bustle.com)). These podcasts can give you food for thought, new perspectives on your symptoms and the motivation to do something differently.

These aren’t a replacement for therapy, as you don’t have professional advice to tailor care to your needs. However, they could be a very useful stepping stone in this path.’

Phil Askew and Jamie Robins are certified personal life coaches. They co-host Safe Harbour podcast. Phil explains ‘When the pandemic first hit and we went into the first lock-down, Jamie (my co-host) and I noticed how this unprecedented time was starting to have an intrusive and overwhelming impact on our thoughts and feelings. 

We decided at that time to set up a structure of ‘checking-in’ via WhatsApp each morning. We’d record and send a voice memo to each other, sharing precisely what we were feeling and noticing in that moment, no filter, no fluff.

We are both professional practising life coaches and were noticing very obviously how our clients were also bringing fear, confusion and overwhelm to their sessions too; in fact, it was all that they were showing up with.

That was when we decided to take our personal check-ins and open conversation style public.

We created our podcast Safe Harbour, hoping that anyone who listens in would recognise that it was perfectly normal to feel overwhelmed, lost and confused with what was going on – not just now in this pandemic time actually, but at any stage of life.

The format of our show is one of unscripted conversations between myself and Jamie. We choose a pertinent subject – for example, ‘Why don’t men talk?’ and we dive in, not knowing the direction or where we’ll end up. We bring our own life experiences and reflect on what our clients might have brought to their sessions (anonymously) in the past. We ask curious questions and discover insights along the way, and it’s very organic.

We want our listeners to feel welcomed in, supported, held. We want them to sense that it’s ok to talk about feelings, particularly the make listeners. We want to model how we are when we feel sad, emotional or challenged and to know that it’s not weakness or lack of resolve. It’s incredibly human.

Along with our 1-1 conversations around a theme, some of our shows are instructional, too; we bring our skills as certified life coaches and empower the listeners with tools and techniques. For example, we’ve spoken about how to ask powerful questions, listen well, what to do when you feel overwhelmed, and set up supportive psychological check-in structures with a friend. 

People have told us they love the accessible, authentic and fun energy we bring to Safe Harbour; it was described by one listener as ‘Listening to you guys feels like I am there with you, coffee in hand sitting around the campfire, not judged, seen, included.’

CONTACT DETAILS:

Phil Askew, Certified Personal Life Coach:

www.philaskew.com

Jamie Robins, Certified Personal Life Coach:

www.jamiecoach.com

Safe Harbour Podcast: 

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/safe-harbour/

For consultations with Dr MacLaren (in Clinic or by video conference), please visit: 

www.recognitionhealth.com

The best Christmas gift

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The excitement of opening our Christmas gifts never diminishes. 

Interestingly, what we feel constitutes a gift can vary enormously. A beautiful piece of jewellery? Wonderful. However, an emotional reunion can be experienced with equal pleasure and create a treasured memory.

Clean water might not seem an obvious gift but globally, the charity Wateraid confirms 1 in 10 people have no clean water at home. For the communities that Wateraid helps, it is not only a gift – but a life saver.

The lack of water has a particularly devastating impact on women and girls, who are largely responsible for collecting water. It keeps them from their education or earning a living. 

WaterAid has worked with a community in south-east Nepal, helping bring clean water and toilets to their school. 

Kabita, 14, who is part of the community said: ‘Before, the school premises were very dirty and the toilet was not clean. When menstruating, either girls did not come to school, or, if menstruation happened during school time, they used to go back home. But now the situation has completely changed. It is very good these days, as we don’t have to leave the school during menstruation. Students can attend without any stress and can concentrate on our studies.’

WaterAid also worked in Laxmi’s community in southern Nepal. Before, Laxmi, 12, often missed school to collect water. She said: 

‘Early in the morning as soon as I woke up, I had to go to the stream to collect water and wash clothes. I would miss school one or two times a week. Now there is water all of us are happy. Without education you can’t do anything.’

This Christmas, you can help communities get the ultimate gift of clean water and toilets by supporting WaterAid’s Thirst for Knowledge appeal. Wateraid will provide vital facilities to communities around the world, helping prevent the spread of deadly diseases, improve education, and transform lives.

Amazing Christmas gifts can be about helping to sustain lives or giving life.

Nicola Wagstaff, 41, from North Wales, is single and co-parents her daughter Ayla, 4. Nicola is the founder of Inspire – Rewire Wellbeing Club.

Nicola explains ‘Ayla was due on the 4th December, 2017, I told everyone it was the 14th as I experienced anxiety and depression during pregnancy. I didn’t want the relentless questions about her not arriving yet. Ayla eventually arrived on the 15th. I was huge. I am 5 foot 3 and she was 10lb. 

Needless to say it wasn’t an easy birth. 3 days later and a home-birth-water-birth plan scrapped, I ended up in a 3 day labour.  

I experienced infections and a catheter for 10 days. At one point I came home from the hospital. It was strange being in that same room for days on end, hooked up to a million wires while trying to change a new born. High on drugs and all by myself in the wee hours of the morning. Eventually they let my partner stay over.

Thankfully, during the whole time I was not at all stressed. As a hypnotherapist, I put this down to the hypno-birthing. The misconception of hypno-birthing is that its about having a water birth at home. Whilst this is the dream for those of us who follow this, its actually more about going with the flow, no matter what happens. 

However, this wasn’t the end of it. I managed to get discharged but we almost forced it and it was a mistake. I became incredibly ill and was trying to breastfeed with daily tummy injections and the rest.

I had in fact contracted a bad infection. I was admitted again, but finally I received my best Christmas gift ever and was released with my gorgeous big little girl on Christmas eve at 8pm. Never have we all had such a thankful, wonderful Christmas.’

Mandy Mee is a Professional Matchmaker, she says ‘Christmas is one of the most anticipated and emotional holidays.

It’s important to be mindful that not everyone has good relationships with relatives. Some people may be estranged from family or loved ones, others may not even have shelter for warmth or food to eat. Let’s not be swayed by the colourful pictures of Christmas the media tends to portray, understanding that the festivities do come with an emotional imbalance – both highs and lows. During this period, staying in touch with people can make a difference to someone on Christmas day. 

Gifting is all part of celebrations, and although Christmas isn’t about materialism, gifting during Christmas has become tradition. Put some effort into planning what to give your loved ones for Christmas with awareness of the art of giving and the impact it has on your being. Gift giving activates a number of chemical hormones in your body such as oxytocin and dopamine, especially when received with immense gratitude. 

My best Christmas Gift ever is quality time with the love of my life and something that’s so significant to our Love. It could be an album or video that tells a story of our relationship, or something unique that serves as a memory of an experience we shared together like a Souvenir.  

As the Festive period tends to breeze through like the wind, remember to be present in the moment and savour every experience, food and drink’.

Christmas gifts are joyous to receive, no matter the price or size. The important aspect is the love and care it is wrapped up in.

Nicola Wagstaff website is www.inspire-rewire.com 

Mandy Mee, Professional Matchmaker & Coach at The MME Agency: www.themmeagency.com

Wateraid Website:  

www.wateraid.org

Writing down our emotions

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If you are confused, overwhelmed, or don’t know where to start, it might help to write down how you are feeling. 

Describing how you’re feeling and thinking might also help you to find information that’s more useful to your situation right now.

You can email your answers to yourself once you have finished. It might be helpful to reflect on what you have written down later, or use it to help you find information that is most useful to you right now. 

This is completely anonymous, you don’t need to share it with anyone, and everything you write down will be erased as soon as you close the window.

The pandemic allowed many of us to uptake new hobbies and pursue existing interests – but there seems to be one activity which the nation is taking increasing interest in. 

Research from leading biographer StoryTerrace reveals that nearly 5 million Brits want to write their own book in 2021, and it seems the incentive for doing so is creating traction outside of the literary world, now widely appealing to the everyday consumer. 

Rutger Bruining who is the CEO of Story Terrace, sheds light on why writing and journaling have become so popular.

Nostalgia increases our happiness

Looking back at past memories and life moments has become commonplace over the course of the past year, offering us a form of escapism from the pandemic. And while reflecting on the past can be an intellectual activity, nostalgia is also an emotional one. Memory is about recalling the facts of a past event; nostalgia is about recalling how it felt to be there. A 2013 study published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin found that engaging in nostalgia led people to feel more optimistic about the future. Nostalgia is also related to higher self-esteem, happiness, and feelings of closeness to loved ones – engaging in past memories evoke these feelings for us, boosting our overall mood.


The impact of journaling on our mental health

The act of writing in a journal to record your innermost thoughts yields a whole host of benefits when it comes to our mental health. It can better our mood, increase our sense of wellbeing, and even lead to better working memory. In some cases, journaling is “prescribed” as a way to reduce PTSD symptoms or to help people suffering from depression and anxiety. However, you don’t have to be suffering to benefit from journaling – any time spent writing your thoughts helps your brain to get better at regulating your emotions. And a biography is like a journal on steroids!


Self-reflection is key to personal growth

If there’s one overarching condition of modern life – and one we can all relate to – it’s busyness. We move from email to email or meeting to meeting with little time to pause and think about our lives and their meaning — a situation that’s only been made worse by the distractions of smartphones. Yet Harvard researchers have found that making time for self-reflection is a crucial component of learning. Writing a biography is the ultimate exercise of self-reflection, as you aren’t just thinking about a day’s work, but your life as a whole. 

Alison Hitchcock is the co-founder of From Me to You, a charity that encourages writing letters for patients undergoing cancer treatment. Here, Alison explains the power of writing down our feelings:

How can writing down emotions help our mental and physical health?

Writing, especially by hand,  gives us the opportunity to slow down and reflect, and this is especially so with writing a letter as we try to put our thoughts and feelings in order,  to convey them to someone else. Research tells us that writing letters can increase levels of contentedness and lower instances of depression. A letter is an opportunity to share with another, to have a conversation, and that conversation is as much between the writer and the paper as it is between the writer and reader.

Is writing down our feelings a positive way of expressing ourselves for everyone?  

For some people drawing will be a positive way of expressing themselves, for others singing, for others talking, but writing is so accessible for so many people. At the letter writing charity From Me to You we encourage people to connect with loved ones living with cancer via a letter, often giving them the opportunity to say in writing the things they struggle to say face to face.

Is it helpful to write every day or should we journal as and when we feel the need to?

Writing should never feel pressurised so doing it when you feel like it will always have the best impact. The physicality of writing, holding the pen, connects with our neural pathways, heightens creativity and stimulates emotions buried away.

One question is should the writer ever share their thoughts with others or is it more impactful if we write solely for ourselves? Writing is a wonderfully intimate way to connect with others without imposing or requiring of them an immediate response. During the pandemic so many people have come to understand the meaning of being isolated but for many cancer patients isolation is a way of life. Being disconnected from the world, especially during treatments,  is difficult, but someone reaching out by writing a letter can create a much needed connection. And for the writer, sharing their own thoughts and musings allows them to take a slice of their world into that of another, and given the feel good factor of doing something good for someone else. 

The beauty of hypnotherapy is that really, the power is in your hands. It’s about heading to your sessions with an open mind and a want to tune in to what your therapist is saying. Think of this as your time – just for you.

Charity website: 

Anyone looking to donate or receive a letter can sign up at frommetoyouletters.co.uk.

Rutger Bruining is the CEO and Founder of national biographer StoryTerrace. 

www.storyterrace.com

Exploring Christmas traditions

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There are many famous and ancient traditions associated with Christmas. Undoubtedly, it is some of the key traditions that make Christmas so special.

It is the season to be merry and after an extremely challenging year of physical and emotional issues to deal with, everyone is ready for this festive season. As some families polish their silver tableware ready for the Christmas day feast, villages and cities hang up their festive decorations and open the doors to a season of Christmas shopping and anticipation for Christmas day.

Christmas has a long history but we have the Victorians to thank for many of our most loved festive traditions, including sending cards and decorating Christmas trees. In fact, before the 19th Century, Christmas was barely celebrated in Britain.

Why do we have Christmas trees?

In the UK the Christmas tree was first introduced in 1800 by the wife of King George III, Queen Charlotte, who brought the tradition from her native Germany, where it was common custom to have a Christmas tree in your home Yew.  She requested a Yew tree be brought to Queen’s Lodge in Windsor, which she decorated herself.

Why is mistletoe hung at Christmas?

Before it became a romantic symbol, mistletoe was considered so sacred in ancient Britain that it could only be cut by druids with a golden sickle.  The plant had connotations of peace, and people who met underneath it were forbidden from fighting, even if they were bitter enemies. Homes decorated with mistletoe offered shelter and protection to anyone who entered.

Even to this day it is very rare to see a sprig of mistletoe inside a church thanks to its Pagan leanings. To the druids of the old religions it was a potent symbol of fertility, and the Greeks and the Romans regularly parleyed peace beneath its boughs. From the Middle Ages our ancestors hung it above the threshold to ward off evil spirits, although the Victorians helped give the plant its modern, lip-smacking tradition. In the UK, the main mistletoe event of the year is the Tenbury Wells Mistletoe Festival in Worcestershire.

How did the Victorians celebrate Christmas?

Much of our understanding of a merrie old English Christmas has more to do with the writings of Charles Dickens or Washington Irving than our real medieval ancestors. For the early Victorians, Christmas was an antiquated curiosity, but one that the English bourgeoisie were beginning to remember. Dickens’s A Christmas Carol is more an idealised romance based on his own childhood memory rather than a chronicle of what was happening at the time. When the Victorians did rediscover Christmas they couldn’t stop themselves and soon we had Christmas cards, crackers and the sense that Christmas was a time for family. And, as Tiny Tim observed: “God bless us, every one.”

Why is turkey eaten on Christmas Day?

In the Victorian era, birds raised in East Anglia were often herded along Drovers’ roads to London to be sold fresh in time for Christmas. Daniel Defoe recorded that 150,000 turkeys were driven from East Anglia to London each year, a journey that took three months to complete. To protect their feet, turkeys were fitted with leather or sacking boots, while geese had theirs tarred and sanded.

In London itself, many working-class citizens banded together to form ‘goose clubs’ as a way to make the Christmas meal more affordable. Each individual paid a few pence a week towards the purchase, which was then shared out between them.

Mince Pies, like Christmas puddings, were originally filled with meat, such as lamb, rather than the dried fruits and spices mix as they are today. They were also first made in an oval shape to represent the manger that Jesus slept in as a baby, with the top representing his swaddling clothes. Sometimes they even had a ‘pastry baby Jesus’ on the top.

Why is holly associated with Christmas?

The barbed leaves and red berries of the holly plant have long been identified with eternal life and protection in Great Britain. At first the Christian church took a disapproving stance to holly, forbidding it from appearing in churches, but the spiky leaves still appeared in people’s houses, as the red of the berries was thought to ward off witches. In the face of such popularity, the custom was sanctified, the leaves taken to represent Christ’s crown of thorns, and the berries His blood. Of course, special care had to be taken with such a powerful and lucky plant and so the old decorations, which were traditionally taken down on Candlemas (2 February), were never thrown away, but burnt.

Where did Christmas Crackers originate from?

Christmas crackers are a traditional Christmas favourite in the UK. They were first made in about 1845-1850 by a London sweet maker called Tom Smith. He had seen the French ‘bon bon’ sweets (almonds wrapped in pretty paper) on a visit to Paris in 1840. He came back to London and tried selling sweets like that in England and also included a small motto or riddle in with the sweet. However, they didn’t sell very well. In 1861 Tom Smith launched his new range of what he called ‘Bangs of Expectation’

Legend says that, one night, while he was sitting in front of his log fire, he became very interested by the sparks and cracks coming from the fire. Suddenly, he thought what a fun idea it would be, if his sweets and toys could be opened with a crack when their fancy wrappers were pulled in half.

Why do we celebrate Boxing Day?

Celebrating the 26th December began sometime in the 1800s when Christmas gifts were received by the in a ‘Christmas box’. The following day, wealthier classes would fill the box with gifts to give to the poor – often servants and staff from their home who would traditionally be given Boxing Day off as a holiday. Alternatively, the box would be donated to a local church to help poorer people.

The feast of St Stephen is now known as Boxing Day thanks to the tradition of tradesmen calling on anyone who had employed them in the previous year to collect a monetary gift placed in special Christmas boxes.

Whether traditions are steeped in history or ones we create ourselves, there is something wonderfully comforting and nostalgic about our beloved customs and shared beliefs over Christmas.

Shopping Habits

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We all understand that terrific feeling that accompanies leaving a store with a fabulous shade of lipstick or after ordering a phenomenal pair of boots online. It is called retail therapy for a reason. 

More than one scientific study has backed up its effectiveness. The truth is when you are stressed out or having a rough day – if you can afford it, scouring your favourite shop for that perfect top can actually help boost your mood.

There are numerous reasons why shopping has become such an integral part of our lives. Here are just a few:

It takes your mind off things

Shopping takes time and concentration whether it is being done online or in your favorite store. You have to think about what you want or need and then find the most appropriate item to meet your requirements. You are focused on what you desire and not on the stressors in your life.

It is a Confidence booster

A beautiful dress or the perfect shade of nail polish can make you feel amazing. No one would argue that. There is nothing wrong with letting a new item give you a little boost now and again, but do be careful to not let the things you own be the only way you can feel good about yourself. Yes you look good in that outfit, but you are amazing either way!

You are in control

You are the one calling the shots when you walk into a store. The clerks are there to help you out and you are the one making all of the decisions. Everyone likes to be in charge now and again. If you have been feeling like everything is out of your control lately, a day of shopping could help with the frustration.

Spending time with loved ones 

If you are like me, you probably like to invite your best friend, mum or sister along. We all know that time with your favourite people can make you feel good and remind you what is important.

It is Satisfying 

Some of the studies about shopping and happiness suggest that simply wanting an item without ever purchasing it can make you feel good. We all know from experience that finally purchasing that item is so satisfying.

It can contribute to your self image 

The way you present yourself to the outside world is important. You are creating an outwardly projected image of yourself with every item you purchase. Effectively creating the image you want to feels good.

Our Own Must have buys

We all need food, shelter and clothing, but even outside of the basic needs that we all share you may find that there are things which are necessary for a hobby you enjoy or a trip you are going on. Having those needs met allows you to reach goals and have unique experiences, which is in turn another kind of satisfaction.

It is Uplifting 

Everyone likes having new things every now and again. Whether you want to bring a new look to a room or your wardrobe, shopping to incorporate something new into your life is always refreshing.

It makes us feel good

This is the most fundamental point, which is always worth mentioning. Studies have shown that shopping actually causes your brain to release more Serotonin, which is a chemical that makes you feel good.

Next time you are experiencing a bad day, maybe you a little shopping can boost your mood. Remember that simply looking for and wanting an item can be uplifting. If you don’t have the funds at the moment maybe a little online ‘window shopping’ would be a better solution for the moment. When you can afford it though, there is nothing wrong with treating yourself occasionally.

It is also interesting to consider what kind of shopper you are:

All of our shopping experiences vary depending on our buying rituals, kind of shopper we are and our budget. What is important is that we enjoy the process.

Relishing Winter

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Cold weather brings people together. We yearn for warmth, love, and connection. The holidays deliver big family meals, endless gratitude, and it just seems like time moves a little bit slower than usual. When the first winter breeze blows through the trees you can feel the magic in the air.

Every season has their own joys and challenges. Winters can be long, cold, and dark. The inherent nature of winter can make it difficult for us humans to endure happily. Learn to make the most of this season with these tips to enjoy winter:

Drink Something Hot

Find comfort in a mug of something warm. This is the season to enjoy any and all the homegrown herbs dried over the summer and autumn. Keep it simple, or make it fancy. A nice balance of both is a great way to enjoy winter. Herbal tea most days, a fancy coffee drink now and then, hot chocolate for dessert on Sunday. Throw in a hot toddy now and then.

Snuggle Up

Winter is usually cooler if not downright cold, depending on location in the world. These cooler temperatures require warmer clothes and blankets. Snuggle up under a favorite blanket. Read books, watch TV, play games surrounded by the simple comfort of a blanket. It seems too simple but there is something so cozy about a pile of blankets for everyone to choose from while practicing hobbies or doing nothing.

Read

Some people read avidly no matter the season, some of us don’t pick up a book during gardening season. No matter which camp you fall into, winter is a great season to read. Hit the library or bookstore and stock up. Pick up books about winter. Read for fun and read to learn something new. A good balance of both is great. A book specifically focused on winter is a terrific idea. Snuggle up under a blanket with a cup of something warm, and get lost in the pages of a book.

Get Outside

To live seasonally, the seasons have to be experienced in the natural world.  Getting outside in winter has special considerations but it can and should be done.

Get outside for a walk, ice skate – simply get outside of the house. Enjoy the sun, absorb some Vitamin D, and take notice of what’s happening in the natural world. Bundle up, put on several layers, wear a hat and gloves, if necessary but get outside as often as possible. This is simply the best way to make seasonal living routine. When we are outside we are able to get a better sense of the season in our individual locations.

Be Creative

For many of our ancestors, winter was the time spent on hobbies and creative pursuits. Clothing was made, spoons whittled, rugs woven. These creative pursuits helped pass time, allowed them to engage in pleasurable hobbies and in many cases helped them earn money. Items were made in the winter and taken to town in the spring for selling or traded with neighbours.

These are all things we can continue to practice in our modern times. Use the long nights to practice something creative. Use the finished items for the home, save them for gift items, sell or trade when possible, or donate to charity.

Eat Seasonal Foods

Eat the foods of the winter season or those preserved from the previous seasons. This is the season to eat that homegrown and home canned applesauce, indulge in those foraged and frozen berries, and eat soups full of homegrown and dehydrated greens. Seasonal, whole foods are perfectly designed to help us get through each season.

Learn a new way to cook those winter squashes, try a new soup recipe, sample something new but eat well and enjoy. We have a tendency to seek comfort foods in the winter. Eat the cinnamon rolls occasionally and feel good about it, just keep it balanced with healthy foods too. Healthy food can also be comforting, find those recipes and indulge.

Practice a Random Act of Kindness

This winter season can be very hard on members of our communities. It’s cold which presents significant hardships all by itself. While the sunlight is returning our days are still plenty dark and that is emotionally tough on many people. The people we come in contact with might be struggling in ways that we cannot comprehend.

Sharing moments of kindness helps them and us – this is a good thing to do in any season but can be especially welcome in the frigid temperatures. Be kind, give hats or blankets to charities to keep less fortunate people warm. Buy a cup of coffee for the person in line behind you, let the car merge, pay a compliment to a stranger.

Light Candles

Winter does mean that the sun is returning. Each day is getting a little longer now. However, the days are still mostly dark, especially for the more northern folks. Combat the darkness by throwing out light in the form of candles.

Eat a meal by candlelight, turn off the electric lights for a bit and bask in the golden glow of a lit candle. Make your own if you want to incorporate a little useful crafting into your winter enjoyment or buy them but light some now and then and use it as an excuse for a gathering where no technology is permitted and conversation is prized.

The smell

At some point towards the end of the year you realise you can actually smell the cold. It’s a clean, vivid smell which travels down your airways making you feel suddenly alive. There’s something a bit like peppermint or eucalyptus to it, but these are pale imitators of the real thing.

Rest

Take that afternoon nap. Heed the call to go to bed early. Allow the body and brain to rest.  It is part of our how our ancestors survived without electric lights and modern conveniences. They slept more in the winter. It’s okay and right even to feel tired at an hour that might still be filled with energy in the summer.

So, to recap, this is what we love about winter.

• The smell. At some point you realise you can actually smell the cold
• Unapologetically stodgy food
• The light on a freezing cold morning
• Winter woollies.
• Christmas markets
• Carol services
• TV box sets and long Victorian novels.
• Listening to the radio

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